The All Support Method

It can be difficult to know how to provide support for others mental wellbeing in a healthy, helpful way. Thankfully, we have created the A.L.L. method, an easy-to-remember acronym to remember when supporting and advocating of others mental health.

​​We ALL have mental health (just like we all have physical health), and as such, we can use the A.L.L. method (Ask, Listen, and Limit) to support others when they are experiencing mental health issues or just having a bad day!

A
​is for ASk

Next time you ask someone how they are, REALLY ask. Don’t assume people will walk right up and tell you how they feel. Don’t assume they are happy just because they are smiling or show only positive images of themself. Connect with them more personally. Show a genuine interest in their life and how they are feeling. Let them know you care about their wellbeing and that you are there for them.

L
​is for Listen

It is far too common for us to let our own voice dominate a conversation. When being supportive of others, spend 75-90% of your time just listening. Avoid projecting your feelings or thoughts on to them, but rather validate how they feel and offer support. Use I-Statements if you offer advice from your own experiences, such as “when I felt ____, I tried ____ and that helped me.” Avoid commands and you-statements like “you should ____. That will fix your problems.”

L
​is for Limit

If you are not a mental health professional, avoid giving advice is outside of your understanding. Only speak to what you personally know and are qualified to say. This will help avoid misleading or wrongfully advising the person you are trying to help. If the conversation with them raises any red-flags of concern (for example, they mention intent to harm themself or others) you can suggest they seek help from someone more experienced and equip to help them, such as a mental health professional.

​Limitations are not just important for the mental health of the person you are supporting, but for your own mental health as well. You are less able to help others if you do not help yourself first. As such, it is ok to set boundaries in relationships to make sure you are able to maintain your own mental health in addition to supporting someone else. Despite how badly you may wish to help others, remember that you are not solely responsible for someone else’s mental health, so do not worry that you alone can or should be all of the help they need to improve their mental wellbeing.

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